Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Two



They say that after you have two kids, having more doesn't make it harder. You get used to it.

I don't believe it. {smile}

When I had one I thought "I'm sure two is harder, but how hard can it be?" Well, now I know. With one child, picture being tied to a bike and having it pull you in one direction. With two, picture being pulled by two bikes in different directions. Nice illustration, huh?

Some days that's what it feels like. Maybe that's just because they are little. A three year old and nine month old is a handful. That's just two! Moms of three or more, do you ever feel like you're getting pulled in different directions all day? Does it get easier when they are older or is it just hard in a different way?

There is so much joy in raising children. There is so much sorrow. So much satisfaction and so much discontentment. They fill you and drain you. They make you want to kiss and hug them, they make you want to lock them in the bathroom and run away. They remind you of being a child, and they make you realize  how hard it is to be an adult. 

There is one way that having two has made parenting easier. They now have each other to play with. Baby E no longer needs my attention every minute because she has Baby T's attention. This has made the transition to two so much more bearable! But in every other way I just find it harder. Harder physically, in terms of housework, working from home, getting dinner on the table. Harder because I can't always give them one-on-one attention when they crave it. 

I feel like I got so much more done when I had one. I thought it was really hard, and it was. Going from zero kids to one is a learning curve. Now my brain is occupied with two at all times and it's a thrilling ride, a roller coaster where sometimes you want to scream, smile, or sigh in relief.

How was the transition from one to two for you? What about two to three? 

8 comments:

  1. With five i think its true that you just roll day to day and get used to it..in a constant state of having to work until they are all grown or at least big enough to make good decisions...with little breaks here and there to keep sanity..it feels like a war sometimes though..me against them and often i feel like a drill sargent. Lol...but im determined to win

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    1. Five. Good for you! {Anastasia takes a bow} My husband comes from a family of 6 kids, and I have many cousins with 2 sets from a family of 5 kids. I'm kind of used to the idea of a big family but I'm scared of it myself, lol. We'll see, time will show what's to come :)

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  2. two is WAY easier than 3. Everyone told me that 2 is the hardest because you have to shift from just one and it's nice and focused and two is more of a juggling act. HA! Try 3! There is ALWAYS someone wanting or needing something. When one wants something, the others will FIND something they NEED RIGHT NOW. I think the most common phrases out of my mouth are "just a minute" or "you have to wait your turn". there is never a moment when noone needs something from me. i don't think there will be a 4th bcause I am worn out!

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    1. See, you're scaring me! ;) We're thinking of #3. We're thinking of children as a blessing, and they are. But boy these early years are just draining! I feel worn out too and that's just with 2. I think I need an attitude adjustment on my part. The kids are teaching me to be patient, more easy going, to focus on what's really important and to stop 'crying over spilled milk' so to speak. It's changing my own character every day. I'm trying to be gentle with them when I hear "Mom!" again every few minutes :) My nature though is to be frustrated, lol.

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  3. I love this post, completely agree with you, there are times when they make me kiss and hug them and there are days when i want to lock them in the room lol and have a brake.
    My summer has been busier than ever with 3. Now little one is crawling everywhere and other older two help a little but for the most part my day is hands full and have little to accomplish, but i also know it won't last forever.

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    1. Yes, I think no matter how many kids we have, we'll always feel like our hands are full - even when it's just 1 or 3. :)

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  4. Only have one but I HAVE to comment. I totally agree. I have a 4 year old girl. I am homeschooling her. I give yoga classes to other kids. I cook. I clean. I mop. I am taxi driver. I am counselor and a nurse. And I give a lots of hugs and kisses every day.
    Still, I am just a stay at home mom, right?

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    1. Haha :) JUST a stay-at-home mom lol It's a juggling act!

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