I love being home with my kids, I truly do. I can't imagine working outside the home and having to leave them with someone, that would be very hard. But since this is my little corner of the web, it's my only place to vent! I am a work at home mother. Eco-Babyz isn't my only job (and hobby), I help out as I can to put bread on the table by writing for Today's Mama, Thanks Mama, and Social Moms.
The reality is quite different, especially with a toddler and three month old! Yes, I have a flexible schedule, but I don't have days off. I don't work, I don't get paid. The reality is - it takes so much longer to get work done. You think I work for a couple of hours a day, get paid in gold, and then spend all my time with the kids? That would be glamorous. Blogging and freelance writing is an incredible amount of work! I often feel like I'm working all day, with breaks to eat, go outside, or change a diaper. Yes, I prefer this to leaving my kids with strangers, but my day most often looks like this, sometimes without the smile on the face (just add one more kid tugging at the skirt, okay, so I'm not usually that dressed up):
I find myself doing at least two things at the same time about 80% of the day. Draining? You bet. That's the life of a mother, and even more so a work at home mom. Working to support the family does change everything. It means you may not get out of the house as much as you would like. It means you may not have company over as often as you would like. It means you may spend time working instead of shopping. It means the laundry may sit in the basket a little longer and there will be a few more dust bunnies than your childless, work-outside-the-home friend has.
This is what I would like 'working at home' to look like (some days it does, for a few minutes):
Why am I writing this? Because apparently some people think that work at home moms don't do much all day and have oodles of free time. Some of you may be contemplating working at home because you may think it's easy and pays well. I've got news for you, it isn't all roses. It's hard work. At the end of the day I'm exhausted because I give my all to my kids, my husband, and my part time work. No mom has it easy, and I think you'll agree there just aren't enough hours in a day for all the laundry, cooking, vacuuming, dusting, wiping bottoms, changing diapers, taking care of kids, and working on top of it.
You'll think I'm crazy for adding homeschooling to the list! Yes, I am, and I know hundreds of moms in the same boat. But when the kids are grown up, at least I will not be regretting not spending enough time with them. It is then I'll sit down with a book and a cup of tea in a reading nook and claim my moments of free time.
I imagine I'm going to get a kick out of reading this ten years from now!